Understand Your Worth And Value It

If you’re feeding him, paying his bills, pursuing him, fixing his mistakes, ride or die for him. You don’t have a man, you have a responsibility and a son. Know the difference and know your worth.

He who finds a wife…” – Proverbs 18:22 KJV (emphasis added)


One of the saddest things I see daily is someone making the same mistakes repeatedly; yet, expecting the situation to change. This is the definition of insanity. You should never lower your standards for acceptance of any kind. God will never give you a man or woman that will lower who he created you to be.  We currently live in a society whose views have become so perverted, that we now accept them as normal. We have now accepted women proposing to men, women having to hold down the man while he’s incarcerated, we have made women ride or die companions as opposed to queens, helpmates, and partners. This society has allowed our women to die for us as opposed to dying for them as Christ did for the Church (Ephesians 5:25). Their sacrificing for us has become this world’s verification of their submission and to the dismay of the constitution (Holy Bible), our women have accepted this perverted society’s normalcy. Being supportive to a man shouldn’t deter you from your moral standards. The underlying issue is often related to acceptance. Many will accept abuse whether physical or verbal. Degrading, being cheated on, an alternate sexual option, or physical companion due to the flesh and soul wants acceptance. The acceptance of a relationship at times becomes more valuable than the value of one self. Hold yourself at the same standard your King holds you. See yourself in the same position your King sees you, and don’t accept anyone who doesn’t hold or sees you the same way. You are indeed royalty and should be treated as such.

We can call athletes and people in entertainment kings and queens for their performances, yet God calls you King and Queen and we reject it to be conformed to side pieces. I once heard a person close to me state that everyone is an option. This statement was sad to hear because it informed me that this person hasn’t meditated on what God actually did through Christ. John 3:16 KJV states, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” God doesn’t think of you as just an option. He made you a priority to the extent, he gave us Christ, so you can remain a priority. If the creator of this universe, the King and owner of all thinks so highly of you, why would you delegate yourself to the status of an option? See yourself as your King sees you. Be a priority only and prioritize your life around ones who view you the same.