The Stages Of Grief: Can We Make It To Acceptance?
I recall that one topic we covered in a psychology class I attended was grief. We broke down the 5 stages and discussed them in great detail. Keep in mind that not everyone experiences these stages of grief in the specific order that they are usually given. Also that there is no typical response to loss. However I firmly believe those of us that have suffered loss have experienced some of, if not all of these stages. The stages are: Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Acceptance.
Often times we get stuck in the stages of anger and or depression. We get mad at ourselves, others, people we have loss and sometimes God. Our anger is often times misdirected due to lack of control. We cannot change the situation so we lash out because we have no way to repair or take back the loss. Let’s for a moment think about the loss of hinderances that we desire to hold captive. God has removed a person (not by death), or a habit, even a situation and we want to pick it back up due to the feeling of unfamiliarity without it. Our anger over those types of losses can lead to depression or even bargaining because we want back what is no longer or was never good for us.
Finding your way to acceptance depends on your perspective. Your current outlook on the loss you are experiencing holds a significant amount of weight. Notice I said experiencing; reason being is that some of us are still in the throes of dealing with this loss and to tell us to simply just accept it is an insult to our emotions. Yet acceptance does not mean we have to forget. “Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”
Proverbs 3:5-6 KJV. We are simply giving ourselves permission to acknowledge that God knows best when it comes to loss and that his plans supersede the ones we have laid out. Walking in acceptance means freeing yourself from constantly wondering why.