When people experience the loss of a loved one the question asked the most to others or shouted to God is “why”. If someone has been sick or lived to us what seemed as if a “dangerous life” we see those as reasons, yet we are searching for something deeper. When I lost my grandfather to cancer I understood the reason for his death, but not why we were not allowed more time to create a strong bond. We want to know why couldn’t they have lived longer. Why did they have to leave on this day or this month, or at all? We often times reflect on our own lives and actions which leads us to wonder if we could’ve done more or anything at all. When people leave us unexpectedly our whys grow in size. We tend to list all of the great attributes about these people and deem them to be reasons why they deserved a longer life.
The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 3:1 “To everything there is a season, A time for every purpose under heaven”. Which means even our lives have seasons and we were not meant to live forever. This also means that there is a season for your pain and it’s not meant to last a lifetime. I too wanted to know why some of the people I held so close to my heart were gone. I’ve come find that we don’t always get the answer we’re looking for to our question of why. Yet we should desire to make peace with our feelings and pray that the ones we’ve lost have found the same.
There are some whys that we can answer and shouldn’t ignore. Why do we allow people to push us to the point of speaking death instead of life? For we know that there is power in our tongues. Why do we so easily give up on lost souls? When everyone has been offered the gift of salvation but some of us need an extra push. Why are we so quick to give up on ourselves and the people we love; bringing death to relationships that need resuscitation? Keep in mind that some should remain ended and we know why! Why do we feel as if healing from loss means forgetting? It doesn’t...