“Great Treatment is Deserved”
In my youth my mother and grandmother would tell me, “treat people how you want to be treated.” I now pass this same advice on to my daughters; even though most times it seems as if adults need this advice more than the youth. We’ve come to a point on our journey where we better understand who we are and what we desire. We desire growth, to see our dreams come to fruition, forgiveness, understanding, love and joy. I would take it a step further and say that you deserve all of these things but not only for self but also so you may bestow it onto others. Show people that this once hurting person with insecurities, baggage, and anger has evolved into a life speaking, confident, vision having powerhouse!
Women it’s imperative to know what you deserve when it comes to treatment especially in dating and relationships. If you have children be mindful of the examples you are setting for them. Have those conversations about respect, self care, friendship and what love consists of. Also about those things they should not allow such as abuse, being forced to do anything, disrespect, etc. Most importantly let them have a voice and be heard. Allow them to see the person you are with treating you as a queen. The things children experience at a young age can shape them as adults and stick with them for a lifetime. You may not agree with my truth but ladies, treat your partner the way you want to be treated. Just because he’s a man doesn’t mean he does not deserve or even wants to be catered to like you. Respect him. Be his peace, support, cheerleader, sounding board, and voice of reason.
Men the same goes for you. Make sure that you are setting those examples and raising kings and queens. Teach your daughters how a man should treat them. Let your sons know that it doesn’t make them any less of a man if he expresses his feelings. Stress is very serious and it can lead to death. Depression seems so common these days and suicide rates are climbing. I can’t help but think that being unable to unpack and unload your struggles and emotions lead to these things. Let the world know how you feel about your partner and elevate her because it will add to who you are as a man. Respect her and love her as Christ loves the church; even before you enter into marriage. Build trust between the two of you. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her,” Ephesians 5:25 (NKJV)
Women and men teach your children how to create and sustain healthy relationships and friendships. Take into account these same lessons and apply them to your life. Great treatment promotes growth and strength in any working relationship. Let’s be less concerned with what our peers and the world will say and more concerned with setting great examples and making others feel appreciated. Keep those lines of communication open and available for your family and friends as well. Let’s treat others how we truly want to be treated!!