Emotional Attachments: Are they weighing us down or promoting growth?
I posed a question previously: How many things are we emotionally attached to that are no longer benefiting us? I personally believe that soul ties are very real and too many times we tie our souls to people that didn’t even need access into our personal space. We get caught up in moments that bring us temporary joy and we attempt to hold on to that feeling for a lifetime. We outgrow some people/friendships but because we have known them for years, or maybe feel indebted; we won’t let go of the situation. Yet after almost every interaction with them we are left with a feeling of heaviness or we’re drained. We also harbor feelings for people that should’ve stayed in our past or develop them for new people we have no business connecting with. These feelings become a crutch or prevent us from starting new and healthy relationships. They can even ruin present relationships depending on our reactions to these feelings. People tend to follow their hearts and live on the high of their emotions, but at times your heart can betray you. The word says in Jeremiah 17:9 NKJV, “The heart is deceitful above all things, And desperately wicked; Who can know it?” If we are so easily ruled by our emotions, we should definitely consult with the father.
When we are functioning in healthy relationships and focusing on things that truly matter; we can see the ways in which we are growing. If you have children you want to ensure your relationship with them not only helps them in becoming exceptional people, but also that it promotes growth within you. The lessons we pass down to our children should stem from what we have learned and experienced in life; in most cases how we’ve overcome. If we intend on keeping relationships that are not producing good fruit, we need to pray that God has his way within them. Only then will we see change; just know that if God removes them it’s beneficial for both or all parties involved and loving them from a distant should be the response. Life’s struggles can weigh us down enough, we shouldn’t add to the hardship by holding on to the things we know should fly free.
God has the ability to bring correction to our hearts and way of thinking. II Corinthians 5:17 (NKJV) says, “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” Our once evil heart can be made new and we will learn that we shouldn’t depend solely on what or how we feel; instead connect with God and allow the Holy Spirit to guide you. Pray about everything especially those things that have you caught up emotionally and you can’t find the strength to distance yourself from. Don’t allow the strides you’ve made towards becoming the better version of yourself be in vain by continuing on with unhealthy attachments. The ability to let go of people, things, and habits that were possibly developed while in that state of floor gazing, will help you to continue pressing towards the mark of a head held high. Let’s not add to weight that pushes our eyes to the floor but instead lighten our load so our posture may be corrected and our vision made clear.
- Avril Moore