Relationships : Am I Equipped & Ready?
Oh here we go; the dish on relationships! Not only between two people but also family, friends, and people we relate to in general. The dictionary describes relationship as follows:
Relationship - A. the way in which two or more concepts, objects, or people are connected, or the state of being connected. B. a romantic or passionate attachment.
Taking into consideration all of the ways we are connected to people, one might say people have a lot of relationships to maintain. My question is: How many things are we emotionally attached to that are no longer benefiting us? Before answering that question, ask yourself if you were even ready to create that attachment and or relationship before it started. Most times we enter into situations halfheartedly without counting up the costs or affects they may have on our lives. People tend to move based on need and or emotions. In my opinion it’s best to consider all pros and cons of any relationship we enter into. Granted you can’t choose all relationships because some are just given to you such as your parents. You didn’t choose them, yet you can decide how you behave in that relationship. Will you nurture it and watch it blossom or neglect it to the point of shriveling up.
Let’s focus on the dating aspect for a moment. Are we dating for fun, marriage, just something to do, or because it validates us in some fashion? If we are dating because we desire something long term or even marriage, we must be equipped to enter into this situation. Up to this point we have examined ourselves and figured out our desires, dislikes, issues etc. We are healing from the past and traveling down the road to elevation. Now we’ve come to the point of assessing our attributes to ensure we are living up to our full potential. In the previous segment we talked about tapping into the great qualities we have possessed since birth and letting them shine through. We want to focus not only on readiness to share our lives with another person but also desires and expectations. Also are we willing and able to accept someone with all they may come with, and be with them long term?
Relationships like most things we want to grow require honesty, attention, work, consistency and most importantly love. “Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” I Corinthians 13:4-7 (NKJV)
Here in the text we see how amazing love truly is and if we can make this a part of our relationships with others; how freeing and fulfilling they can become. In my opinion being equipped and ready for relationships starts with love of self and God. God teaches and covers us in love so that we may be able to love one another. Having the ability to extend love and nurture lasting relationships comes from a wholeness and acceptance of self. It is hard to truly love others if you don’t first love yourself. Even with readiness we know that we cannot always predict the outcome of situations. Yet it is better to have a plan and some knowledge versus entering into something blindly.
- Avril Moore